„Când Dumnezeu i-a cioplit pe oamenii mari, din așchii i-a făcut pe critici“.
Este o maximă pe care am întâlnit-o de mult, dar care nu și-a pierdut între timp valabilitatea.
Știți ce este …
… un critic muzical? Este unul care n-a avut destul talent să scrie el vreo bucată muzicală, dar are suficient ca să-și dea cu părerea despre compozițiile altora.
… un critic literar? Este unul care n-a avut destul talent să scrie el vreo carte, dar are suficient ca să-și dea cu părerea despre cărțile altora
… un critic de scluptură? Este unul care n-a avut destul talent să facă nici măcar o singură statuie, dar are suficient ca să-și dea cu părerea despre creațiile altora
Urmărind logica aceleași argumentări. Știți ce este …
… un critic al păstorilor din biserici? Este unul căruia nu i-a păsat destul ca să se ocupe de problemele altora, dar care știe teoretic să le rezolve pe toate.
… un critic al predicatorilor? Este unul care nu știe să predice, dar știe cum ar trebui să predice alții.
Și așa mai departe … și așa mai departe …
Cineva a observat că dacă ai sta să liniștești toți câinii care te latră n-ai mai ajunge niciodată la capătul satului!
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I have no patience for critics and why you shouldn’t either…
When you put your work online, eventually, someone is going to come along and say horrible, hateful things. The critic is inevitable… You suck, your work sucks, you have no talent, blah, blah, blah.
Even worse? The stuffed shirt that condescendingly explains everything you’re doing wrong in minute detail — for your own good, of course.
It’s soul crushing and half the reason it feels so awful is that it’s like they’re reaching into your head and spitting your worst thoughts back at you. All those doubts you have about yourself, splayed out in ugly words.
It’s important to realize there are 2 separate issues happening…
- First issue is your fear and self doubt. If you’re not a psychopath, you have fear and self doubt. You question yourself and your own work. That’s human and normal for people who aren’t psychopaths.
- Second issue is the hater. Haters hate because that’s what they do. Vitriol is who they are. A good psychologist can make a damn decent initial diagnosis of a critic based on what the critic says. Their words say a lot about them and not much about you at all.
Creative work is subjective.
Show me one bestseller that doesn’t have haters. One blockbuster movie that doesn’t have haters. One celebrity that doesn’t have haters. You can’t.
Some of the most popular works of all time are ridiculously polarizing. A topic or piece of work is polarizing when it makes people feel stronger emotions than they normally feel. Gun control. Abortion. Racism. Those are polarizing.
Maybe you wrote something or created something that hit a trigger button for the critic. Their problem, not yours. They still get to choose how to respond.
When people who care about your progress give advice, they give it kindly and helpfully. If some random stranger doesn’t care about you enough to be kind, you have zero obligation to care what they say. Or even listen to it.
From a psychological perspective, the anticipated response to overt criticism is withdrawal. They’re trying to shut you up. Don’t let them.
We only have a certain number of sunrises and sunsets and we don’t get to know which is our last one. We wake up one day, or go to bed one night — and that’s it. Time’s up. Don’t let someone who doesn’t care enough to be kind hold you back even for one day.
Dear critic. Just stop. You’re only showing everyone how unhinged you are.
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